There is a strange phenomenon that I have been experiencing for a few years now. It’s been on and off but I always remember that I have felt this way before. What’s the phenomenon? It’s simple: forgetting my own race among other races. As an example, imagine that you are White but you spend so much time around, let’s say, Hispanics that you sometimes forget you yourself are not a Hispanic. It’s like that for me.
I would not be surprised if this phenomenon, whatever it can be called, is more common that people would like to admit. In my particular case, I hang around my friends often and many of them are not a part of my race. Because I spend so much time with them, I can sometimes forget that I am not a part of their race. To be frank, it has more to do with skin color than with culture.
Now, skin color is not important. It shouldn’t be important at all. Why? Anyone’s skin color can change, regardless of how or why it gets changed. It should never matter what color your skin is and that shouldn’t affect how people perceive you (however that is still a struggling ideal in the modern world.)
Most of the time, I experience this after going long periods of time without observing myself, either in a mirror or by simply looking at my hands for instance. I can be at a small get-together with friends and for whatever reason, somewhere in that time I’ll forget my own skin color is not like theirs. I become so engrossed in their company that I don’t pay attention to myself or at least my physical appearance. And after they leave or I leave, I may go look in a mirror and be reminded that I am indeed not like them.
I’ve discussed this topic to my mother actually. She was quite taken aback by my experience and she responded with, “I would never forget my race or skin color ever.” I came to her honestly and she somewhat dismissed my experience as unreal in a sense; that was a bit hard to swallow. Still, I can understand her confusion as she has never actually experienced this phenomenon herself so maybe she wasn’t the best person to discuss this with. Whatever the case, those I have discussed this topic with all seem to find it strange and unusual.
This post is not meant to suggest that there is a problem. I am simply addressing a frequent happening that happens for me. It is neutral at this point as I am not negatively or positively affected by it and others do not seem to understand how to process it. After all, it is a strange phenomenon. It does take effort to look in the mirror when you choose to and acknowledge that your natural skin is the color that it is.
You know, thinking about it, I only have like three friends who are the same race as me. Every other friend is a different race. That could be a big reason as to why I experience this phenomenon. Regardless, my experience is real but at the end of it all, it shouldn’t really matter. I suppose maybe in certain parts of the world my happening might get me into trouble but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.
There’s not much more to say about this phenomenon, at least at the moment. So, I will leave you to marinate on these thoughts. Until next time, cheers.
Does anyone else experience this? Is there more to this happening that should be acknowledge or analyzed? Is there an actual name for this phenomenon? If there is a name, please let me know! Don’t forget to leave all of your thoughts below as well!